FAM we have gone about 10 months without any family wedding drama... none at all.... i was excited.. my FMIL is awesome, my parents have been awesome, everyone has been awesome..... well, one issue sprung up recently and then tonight.... FMIl wants children at my shower.. my bridal shower.. i dont believe children should be invited nor does pete.. we dont have that many cousins, but we dont think cousins should be allowed at MY SHOWER.. my day.... its a grown up thing, more so than not... its not about focus on family but more so (not to sound like this) but focus on me..who can come out of my family and friends, great.. who cant, well we hope to see you at the weddin.... well FMIL while has been cool through the whole process had assumed that her nieces and nephews are allowed... she thought pete would think the same way.. he doesnt...kids whether be 5 or 16 will be a distraction (well, not erally 16 but we are doing all or nothing) kids are not giong to be at our wedding EXCEPT FOR our cousins.. but you know what, we are paying almost 70 a KID to be there..... there is a lot of money involved in planning...my dad is practically paying for it all.. god bless my amazing family... my friends paying for shower and FMIL for the rehearsal dinner.. god bless them all.... pete and i are paying, just not as much.. for all the little stuff which adds up to a shit load for us, financially...without everyone else we wouldnt be able to make it happen.. so soon... or even at all.. its a lot of money. some of my friends have paid or will be paying for it all- i envy them and give them a TON of credit... So it is a touchy subject about who to invite who not to invite.. 2nd cousins and cousins of cousins.. it just gets out of control. i am giong to have people mad at me after this, because i didnt invite them.. we wanted a small wedding, hell we wanted to do it in st. thomas with just us a few friensd and family... but now its kinda like, well... you gotta make the line.. somewhere... those who expect to go, sorry you may not be going.. its just hard.. ill write more later. oh, and i joined a gym.... first time ever.. BAL8LYs baby! wish me luck.. tomorros my first day |